You can listen intently to the other party witter on about the most banal of subjects for what may feel like an eternity – being involved, asking questions – but the minute you open your mouth to speak the shutter behind their eyes slams shut firmly, and you realise they are paying no heed to your contribution. Or worse still, they start messing with their phone or laptop.
You see, I love being ignored; elevating another to their rightful place on that pedestal so that they, and their ego, may look down on me from on high.
I consider myself a good listener, which in some circles translates as: ‘Good, because I don’t intend to give you a platform from which to speak’.
What happened to the rules of conversation? Didn’t it used to be normal practice for dialogue to flow between individuals? You say something, and then I say something. When did the art of monologue take over? Have people become so accustomed to delivering their particular diatribe on social networking sites like Facebook, and Twitter, or blogging (guilty as charged) that this practice has now become ingrained as part of our culture?
The irony of this situation is that on the very odd occasion I have been distracted in conversation, and not paid the recipient of our tête-à-tête my undivided attention, they have become duly affronted.
If I confront them about their lack of attention, they claim to be absorbed in other more pressing matters and absolve themselves of any guilt. The reality being that, for some, their concerns are always of more significance than anybody else’s.
So next time you enter into a conversation please consider your confidante’s feelings, and pay consideration to the rules of engagement… or, alternatively, don’t bother.
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